And now, the five bloggers I've chosen to pass along the award to are.....
Becoming Stefanie Despain - One amazing birth mom!
Carrying A Cat By The Tail - A semi new birth mom/blogger, who's
Matters Of The Heart - Hopeful adoptive parent, who has dedicated her blog to birth parent support, birth parent stories, and open adoption awareness.
Heart Cries - Adoptive mama in an open adoption. Her love and commitment for her son and his birth mother are inspiring and heart warming.
Our Life, Our Journey - One of my favorite adoptive mamas! She is truly dedicated to open adoption and adoption reform.
For the "Cherry On Top" Award:
1. Link to the person who gave it to you!
2. Pass it on to 5 more people!
3. Leave a comment on their blog telling them about it!
6 comments:
WOW! Thank you! I am humbled and flattered. My expression of choice is writing...if I didn't have a blog my friends and family would probably block my email address. I'm infamous for writing long emails, letters, you name it. I was that girl always passing notes in class. My blog was a way to let some of my emotions and feelings out about my adoption but has turned into so much more- connecting with others in the adoption community has been an amazing and unexpected blessing. Thank you!
Thanks so much, Ashleigh! You're such a sweetheart!
I said my thanks in the blog you commented on. but I'm sayin thanks again :) I appreciate it. I love these little awards because then I get to blog stalk new blogs! I love!
Thank you :) Your so thoughtful to think of me :) It really helped me to smile right now :) I appreciate it and think YOUR AMAZING! Thank you for being who you are !: )
OMG girl I get back from vacation and see this!! YAY!! Thank you so much! I wish I was there again to hug you, but glad I got to do it a couple times while visiting you. I am very honored that you thought of me for this, considering I am a blog slacker :)) But, I guess you know when I do get around to it, it's my heart. So very happy you are a friend and can't wait to move near y'all(lol) and get to hang out more! Love you sweet friend, hugs xoxo
Ashleigh,
This isn't just about this post. I am an adoptive parent and this past year I have kind of been through the ringer. I've been trying to get connected with adoption groups and people with different perspectives. A lot of that I have to do online because of the out-of-the-way place I live. Unfortunately, so much of what I have found online about adoption feels like hate festivals, usually against adoptive parents, less often but sometimes against birth parents. Both types make me feel really depressed and demoralized and futilely angry. I have tried to curtail my reading because it has started to harm all sorts of family relationships. I try to filter out the real stuff, but I still end up with all this negativity hanging around my consciousness, such as people saying directly to me that I have a "fake daughter." This is from people who claim to be defending the rights of adopted children or working for adoption reform. What they are doing, slinging insults and judging entire groups of people with stereotypes, ends up being harmful to my psyche and family relationships. I know there are lots of people out there who want adoption reform and who aren't into hating any particular group en mass. But those people probably have busy lives, so they don't tend to be the people with endless time on their hands to sit around in internet chat rooms, so they are harder to find and I don't hear from them as much. What I do hear a lot of is hate speech and stereotypes against entire groups of people.
I wanted to tell you, for what it's worth, that what you are writing here is worthwhile and valuable. To me, after experiencing all this vitriol, it is amazingly healing to read your perspective and emotions. The fact that you sometimes express some resentment does not make that less so. It makes it more, because it is obviously real. The way you tell things does not promote stereotypes. Even when you're upset, you just telling your own feelings in a sensitive way that respects the rest of humanity. It helped at least one person today - me. Thanks a lot. I'm going to try to put a link on my blog to yours, my first link.
Arianna
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