Wednesday, February 16, 2011

It's over!

So it’s done. V-Day has come and gone, with out a word from R about changing his mind (again). 12 AM last night, the adoption was finally official on our end. H was finally able to make the big announcement on facebook, and I expect them to send out announcement cards soon. Today after work I went over to their house for a sort of celebratory dinner. H cooked lasagna, and I made a peach cobbler (Yes, made. Peeled and sliced the peaches myself!). We had a lovely time, as always J

Once I got home I checked facebook just to see what all she had said in her post, and which pictures she had decided to upload. H had sent me a text earlier in the day letting me know she was going to post a few things and include “Liam” as his nickname, but explained that I did not have to call him that and to please call him William if I wanted. We had a talk several weeks ago about what his nickname would be; I liked “Will” and she liked “Liam”, and for different reasons, we each did not like the others choice (Mainly because of people we don’t like that go by those names). In theory, I didn’t really have a problem with her family calling him “Liam”…. But once I heard it, and once I saw everyone (EVERYONE) calling him “Liam” on Facebook… Well, I have decided I absolutely HATE that damn nickname. HATE. Loathe. Abhor- WHATEVER- I do NOT like it. First, I don’t think it’s a very attractive name. Second, I don’t think about my beautiful little William when I hear it. Instead, I think about someone I despise and I think about what they did to make me despise them. And then I get angry and upset (yeah I know, forgiveness, right? But these wounds are still too fresh for me to “forgive and forget” just yet).
Maybe it will grow on me, like Robbie’s new name did. Maybe one day I’ll be able to call him Liam without wanting to vomit. Or maybe not. We’ll see.

I guess I’ll just be happy that this adoption mess with R is finally over. I can finally relax!


A Life Being Lived said...

Congrats on the finalization, I know I felt a lot of peace when I found out my daughter's had gone through. You are not alone- I don't like the name Liam either. You don't have to call him or think of him as Liam though.

LeMira said...

There are many Williams in my life (it's a family name and runs in a friend's family as well), and I've known Bills, Wills, Williams, and Liams. I have a personal preference as well, and maybe it's because Liam seems so popular the last few years or that my brother 's go by it, but I love Will. Personally, my favorite part in all of this is that H told you that you could call him whatever you preferred, that you don't have to call him by what she calls him.

Sidenote: My friend who's son is William and goes by Liam gets called William once in a while, although she's usually upset when she's screaming his full name.

Rebekah said...

I'm glad you're able to relax, but sorry about the name...Thankfully, Rebekah and I agreed on Ty's name and nickname. It would have been very difficult for me to use it otherwise.

MamaFoster said...

ok, i love you, but i also like the name liam :) i have no bad association to it.

Not Just A Birth Mom said...

@All- True, I don't have to call of think of him as Liam (and I wont, not anytime soon). I didn't think of Liam being a possible nickname when I chose the name William, so I suppose that is slightly my fault :P
H actually reads my blog, and last night she let me know that it made her sad to read how much I hate the nickname and hates that I was upset about it. She stressed (again) that I do not have to call him that and it could be more of a special thing between William and I for me to call him by his name or "Will", instead of Liam.
Isn't that sweet? She's such a sweetheart :)

@mamafoster- grrr... I suppose I wouldn't mind it so much IF I didn't have a bad association to it :P


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