tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post7307720030425518095..comments2022-11-09T08:26:47.057-05:00Comments on Not Just A Birth Mom: PurposeNot Just A Birth Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10520101148178388809noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-81130703584126299472011-05-04T01:10:51.663-04:002011-05-04T01:10:51.663-04:00Of course you can Brittani!Of course you can Brittani!Not Just A Birth Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10520101148178388809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-50820480873232037422011-05-03T22:00:34.476-04:002011-05-03T22:00:34.476-04:00Ashleigh,
Can I quote a portion of this post if ...Ashleigh, <br /><br />Can I quote a portion of this post if I link it back to you in my post? I really love what you had to say and I don't think I could say it better!<br /><br />BrittaniAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-85543208458562723652011-03-28T09:42:38.479-04:002011-03-28T09:42:38.479-04:00@Anon- You have every right to comment! This blog ...@Anon- You have every right to comment! This blog is open for everyone. I am so sorry you are in that situation. Please feel free to email me if you have any questions, need any help, or just want to talk. I can help you find an ethical agency (you should really use one that provides free life-long counseling) and other resources in your area (resources for placing and parenting, whichever you decide).<br />ashleighastn@gmail.comNot Just A Birth Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10520101148178388809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-22591094255961575142011-03-28T00:35:26.237-04:002011-03-28T00:35:26.237-04:00Maybe I have no right to comment on this but I cam...Maybe I have no right to comment on this but I came upon your blog while reading someone elses. I am a single mother to a 10 month old baby boy. I am also pregnant again. This time I plan on placing for adoption. I love the way you right, this post is so true. I wish everyone understood it that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-86592754585112331732011-03-11T23:58:33.983-05:002011-03-11T23:58:33.983-05:00Thank you for saying this. I am an adoptive mom to...Thank you for saying this. I am an adoptive mom to five kids and I have always been bothered by those phrases you commented on. I have met at least one of each of my kids' birthparents, seen the pain in their eyes, and the tears in their voice. Adoption has truly humbled me. I love my children and am so grateful that I get to raise them, but there is always a sense of sadness lurking around my thoughts that their own birth parents are missing out on all these wonderful moments. Adoption was NOT God's plan. It's His rescue and recovery option.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03094017054916752470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-79516239224483962682011-03-10T08:35:17.432-05:002011-03-10T08:35:17.432-05:00i have to agree with you, even though I know that ...i have to agree with you, even though I know that people really only say the things they say to make them selves feel better and when they are more at peace with their decisions than they were in the past.<br />i do think part of them means it but there are other parts to the situation.<br /><br />i personally remembering writing "I was meant to do this..." after I picked up my first foster child and had cared for her for a few weeks. i know that i am meant to take care of other people's kids when they can't because God put it in me to be able to and willing to...but HE never meant for them to be abused and have to be placed with me in the first place. i am the contingency plan and i have to be ok with that.MamaFosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16347829013467691443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-52776992747219646932011-03-02T23:20:19.076-05:002011-03-02T23:20:19.076-05:00I completely agree with your post. Although my ado...I completely agree with your post. Although my adoption experience has been positive, and I really love my daughter's parents, this is not how things were "meant" to be. Mothers are not meant to be separated from their children, no matter how young, financially unstable, etc. they are. I really think the only reason why a mother and child should be separated is if the mother is a danger to herself or her child and is in need of some sort of medical or psychiatric treatment. That said, faced with a challenging world and uncertain circumstances, I tried to make the best out of a hard situation. I don't believe God intended for me to be the "channel" for my daughter's parents to build their family or any of that nonsense. I believe that we all have free will and my free will made the adoption decision. My daughter's loss of knowing me as her mother, and my family as her family, will affect her as she grows up and into the rest of her life and I do not believe that God intended that loss for her either. That said, God wasn't providing me with unlimited resources, neverending support and any emotional, financial and physical assistance from the birthfather, so I found adoption as a way to try to make an uncertain situation better. Did God mean for this all to happen? I don't think so, but in a way he did keep a promise that if I went through the pregnancy that she would be ok. I am not sure if he knew that the way to ensure her well being was adoption though.A Life Being Livedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702473000464603292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6550041944660884352.post-91014066079871559372011-03-02T23:05:22.361-05:002011-03-02T23:05:22.361-05:00I agree. God does not cause suffering. He can ma...I agree. God does not cause suffering. He can make good out of bad (Romans 8:28). But he does not cause bad to one person so that good can happen to another.<br /><br />Many adoptees also struggle with being told their loss was "meant to be." It just makes no sense.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.com